Massage, Life and Everything

Hello everybody,

I have resisted having a blog because I wasn’t sure I would always have a new topic in mind. People tell me that if you have a blog you have to post regularly, like EVERY week, and I found that really intimidating. So after much thought and much time passing I have decided to do a blog anyway and write as the spirit moves me.

Goat Rock BeachA blog can be like an open letter. I like that idea. I can share my thoughts and you, in turn can share yours in the comments section, and that way we can have a more active conversation. Because I do think we can learn a lot when we engage with each other. I think the point of life is to work together to make the world a better place and to make life easier for each other. However we choose to do that. The Internet certainly helps connect people from all over the place and that makes life interesting. So when you comment, please share a bit about yourself.

Grounded in my beliefs about business – of any kind, really – is to be true to yourself and do things in the way that feels right to you. Authentic. Real. I think that’s true about a massage practice and it’s true of most businesses. People become attracted to your unique personality, your style of doing things. One of the truths is that everyone doesn’t have to love you or want to be your client. Some people may be turned off. But that’s okay. Because all you really need are the ones who do find you helpful and healing. You just want to fill your practice. You don’t have time to see everyone in the world, anyway.

One of the hardest things for me was the sense of doing everything alone. That’s part of the challenge of a solo practice. You walk in to your quiet office and there you are. The massage table is made up. Your oil, lotions and aromatherapy essences are laid out, you check your schedule and see that in 4 hours you have a client. You look outside your window and see the traffic slowly going by. There are a few people on the street, waiting at the crosswalk, on their way somewhere. The city is in motion and you don’t have a client for 4 hours. You think about the bookstore down the street. You wonder if it’s too early to go get some lunch. You sit for a while, looking out the window, watching people go past, in their cars, on foot, on bikes. And you wonder what you should do. Someone could call at any moment wanting to come in immediately so you have to be ready. But right now you don’t have anything to do for 4 hours.

Have you ever had a day like that? This is the kind of thing I want to explore with this blog. How do we best handle our challenges? Every massage therapist I have known in private practice has found that aspect of a solo practice challenging. One of the reasons I wrote my book Successful Strokes and made the Facebook page and started this blog is so people working by themselves would feel less alone. I wanted them to have someplace to go for ideas and inspiration. That’s what I would do during those lulls. I would read inspiring books. I would use that time to do spiritual practices like meditate. I would use that time to write in my journal, which I call my “free therapist.”

Sometimes I would go to a nearby health club and work out. Often I would go for walks along a creek that went through the town where I had my office. These were times I would visit other business owners who worked nearby to see who else was having a slow day and wanted some company.

Other days I would use that time just to relax. I would listen to guided visualization recordings to uplift my thoughts, to help me feel full and prosperous and transform my state of mind.

But enough about me. What do you do to recharge?

P.S. Please let me know you were here. Say “Hi” and where you live in the comments section. Thanks!

6 thoughts on “Massage, Life and Everything

  1. Hi Molly, (I love your name, by the way)
    I was referred by Crissi Langwell to read your blog. I’m glad I did.
    I’m from Rohnert Park and I have a lot of free time to myself. I’m a substitute teacher who doesn’t have work everyday. I’ve been procrastinating getting my short story edited (again).
    I love your idea to just meditate and write in a “free therapist.”
    Your blog and Crissi’s is inspiring me to finally start my own blog.
    Best to you,
    pamela fender

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  2. Hi Pamela. Welcome! Thanks for stopping by! This is my first blog ever and it’s been fun getting it going. Crissi did a wonderful job designing this page for me. I’m looking forward to using this space to express all sorts of stuff, Please let me know when you have yours up. I’d love to see it.
    Keep creating!


  3. Thank you for sharing your experience in the blog and in newsletters previously! I too am familiar with the challenges of self employment. I tend to rush to fill up my ’empty spaces’ with other work outside massage, primarily eldercare. I love both but prosperity is alluding me. Like many ‘be still’ can be a challenge! I’m so happy to connect on cyber platforms with others with similar challenges! And you’ve inspired me too about stepping into publishing a blog of my own! I look forward to continuing a dialog from NH to you!

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    • Hi Cathy in NH! Thank you for visiting and sharing a bit about yourself. Yes, self-employment is challenging as well as rewarding. That’s why it really helps to have a sense of community to share ideas and get more juice. Because putting yourself out there sure does take a bit of juice! This blog is a new adventure. I have a lot of things I want to write about and it’s a nice place to share short pieces. If you enjoy writing I highly encourage you to create a blog. Your friends and clients can get to know you better. When you do, please let me know!


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